The fact that I’m writing this post on a beach with the sun shining down on me (and my ice cream) while my baba sleeps peacefully beside me, only makes me want this lifestyle more. In an hour he’ll wake up and we will have a play in the sand before going to pick up my eldest from his school disco and heading home for a barbecue! Reality check, we are in England here where the sun doesn’t always shine and the life of a housewife isn’t as idyllic as this perfect day, but it’s pretty darn close.
I’ve been off on maternity leave for over 12 months now and the countdown to my return to work has well and truly begun. While I mourn the end of free life as I know it I have to say I envy all of the stay at homers out there, and not for the reasons you may think.
I believe it takes a great deal of courage to be a stay at home parent in this day and age. Society places no value on the benefits of having a parent at home and the positive effects this has on family life. The assumption is that both parents should work, regardless of how financially viable this is, and if not then be prepared to explain why.
As I’ve entered the last weeks of my maternity leave the world and its wife have been lining up to tell me how good I am for going back to work. Apparently I’ll be a bored, anxious mess whose only source of human interaction is the mailman if I don’t have a 9-5.
Nobody wants to mention the other life that I’m leaving behind: This past year I've grown closer to my family because I’ve been able to give them the time they deserve. Life is harmonious and calm because it’s the first time I’ve been able to see the end of my to do list and feel like I have a chance of doing it. And, despite what most people think, I haven’t once seen (or spoken to) my mailman because I’ve been too busy at playgroups, with friends or visiting family.
Now I look in the mirror and see someone who feels fulfilled and is there for the people who need her. I’ll miss her when she’s replaced by the frantic working mum constantly chasing her tail and never at home during daylight hours.
To all of the stay at home parents out there, you’re doing and amazing job and I salute you!
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